The fragility or strength of a relationship depends on a single word 'trust'. I have been playing the role of a counselor this week to two of my close friends, a couple who live in 2 different countries and every waking hr [literally] they want to knw wots happening on the other side of the horizon, they panic, they are suspicious and at times angry…sometimes the tension becomes palpable…. are v as a generation bcoming over dependant and jumpy, do we expect more thn v shud, r v walking away frm eachother without even attempting to walk towards each other? Questions questions and more questions…but, with seemingly different answers, what works for somebody doesn't have to work for smone else, that is wot adds vibrancy to the fibre of life….
On Thursday, as the nation celebrated Kargil Divas, like most of us I was moved and affected emotionally (as a kid kindness meant being able to give, and receive appreciation from my teachers, now I wud rather not want to talk of the things tat matter to me or r valuable to me as thy wud b precious, n true kindness or 'givin' will loose its meaning if I do it to gain sm printspace or recognition)
After listening to the widow of a doc who died during Kargil, I didn't feel sympathetic neither did I feel sorry, but I felt pride, pride at the thought of a woman holding onto a brief memory of a husband who gave her 2 children in the 5 yrs of their life together, pride at her surviving bravely and being a model to most of us fickle people who r on the edge for relatively insignificant reasons, pride at what she symbolized, a woman who hoped, who believed in someone so dear, who passed away for a bigger cause/purpose, her parting message to children at the end of the show(twas on Radio Indigo n shes a teacher) 'be good children n play as much as u want' som1 truly courageous, who after sharing something v personal spoke with simplicity and sincerity. What can a child understand more than a msg of tat kind…with material comforts becoming automatically available aren't msgs like this tat wil help us mould our children?
In contrast I observe the hollowness and shallowness of people who are together, together for different reasons, for being with the 'it' guy/girl completely unhappy with each other, who dnt even njoi those sweet silences tat wud allow 2 ppl to communicate mch more thru their gestures and eyes, there r ppl with each other just so tat the world wants thm 2 b 2gethr, ppl perceiving tat thy r only thr 4 each other without actually experiencing and appreciating the co of many friends and understanding the intricacies and practical limitations that one may have in lieu of distance, nature of work and varied interests...I was at a wedding of two beautiful ppl and I only wish tat the beauty remains and the strength of their togetherness blossoms into a much more beautiful oneness.
Observations hav suddenly bcom acute n leadin a corporate life sometimes is all abt manipulation, I dnt want to be affected by the negative energy sm colleagues may hav as thy think I am doing smthing different frm wot thy r, its abt learning frm their mistakes, I sometimes am but a mute spectator, I belive in being blind to human weaknesses, I have started to understand tat just as I have my idiosyncracies n insecurities everyone else has too, in understanding tat its natural and common, I can say tat I will survive as long as I am comfortable being me…
Reflections/confessions u might say, but I hav com to accept tat by being truthful one doesn't loose a thing..I have bcom addicted to Potter and hav also been reading a wonderful book on economics called 'Freakonomics' – intelligent, simple and data driven…Notes to Myself by pather is another ready referral wch keeps me understand my evolution btr J
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