man/woman (2-9-07)

Some of u have written to me asking if there would be a waning of the wave of my voice wch thy felt ty hrd on a weekly basis as against the fortnightly its become off late….urs truly has started living in her office..ahem definitely calls for her to xtend her life to mch more interesting activities n occupations…

Last weekend was a long weekend n I made ample use of it, met up with Nikki aftr ages n had loads of girly fun, sharing, eating n cribbing…the week prior to that we had the honor n privilege of hosting an attorney from the US, Linda Howard, who happens to be one of those literary celebrities whose calendar's booked for yrs n ppl luv to listen to, but, having met n spoken to her, was convinced tat she deserved every bit of attention n following, her claim to fame was a handbook on sexual harassment in the workplace..

n she spoke to all women mindtree minds on building self esteem, this is a topic I disagree can be taught or learnt, it comes naturally, whn both men n women r subjected to circumstances n situations, we will emerge building beliefs in ourselves n respecting ourselves for wateva v r…n its true for ppl across the globe, we all hav our lows n highs, n women more so as thy value n emphasise their emotional selfs n give more importance to relationships [if u hav wondered y a woman colleague is taking so long to recover from her boss' feedback or sternness, its cause we r internally attuned tat way] its been clinically proven :) tat due to thr emphasis on ppl n relationships, women tend to take things personally, things tat men may ignore as a bad day at office…however, this session helped us in forming a woman council within our team, n urs truly proposed a community within, if all goes well ull all c pics of us launching tis v necessary council…


If I sound like a feminist, mayb I am or I hav worn tat hat 4 now [scary sm of u may say .heehehe] yesterday saw me munching on a pizza, the pizza hut menu has been redesigned wch is pleasantly appealing, n a colleague of mine brought up a discussion on 'road less travelled' n a specific biography called 'timepass' [indeed a simple n significant tribute to the true flower couple of India] its written by Pooja Bedi, wch details even v intimate n wild encounters her mother had in her life, n this colleague hrd a piece of my mind whn I said tat I would respect these women for thr fotrigtness n no regrets lifestyles rathr than terming thm as 'bold'/raunchy, if thy r comfortable with the choices thy made y shud v talk abt thr choices, if v were comfortable with our v own, do v overemphasise the baddy image cos somwhr in each of us lies a need to bhav in the xtreme…

The book 'almost single' was a nice read, its something I could identify with, its abt 3 women, at age 29, unmarried – a woman relationship mngr in a five star hotel, a corporate woman who walks out of her marriage due to a philandering husband n a small town (bhatinda to be precise) Punjabi insurance agent whose in the big city trying to find a charming NRI prince, its set in Delhi, simple n contempory but let me warn u its not a grt book, read it to pass time n its fun…I cud relate to it, bcos I am in tat phase of life whn ppl around me think I should consider marriage[thank god I have parents who think otherwise], just bcos I hav a decent job n look nice, hav been hearing warnings abt hw men wudnt want to hear my thoughts, my gibberish on books n all tat unless I am the right age, my ma married at 26 n shes happy n well settled, n I don't c y I cant settle down at an age of my choice, if men can touch their late twenties y shudnt v, I have a house to build, I want to hav a grip on my career[ in my field its 4 yrs of shelf life n sloggin aftr wch ill truly arrive], I want to b a dedicated wife n a super mom, u hav all knwn of my ideas- of my choice of having my own child care centre wch wud b attached to mars patisserie… if I can find someone who understands these choices I wud b more thn willing to walk the aisle, the search is on, n lets c whr it ends, in the end I bliv I will lead as happy a life as ever, as I knw things hav a way of falling in place…


N thn thr r the other relatd qsns, y r u cing smone? Dnt hang around wit men who dnt knw wot thy want frm u? qsns wch I think dnt make sense…y cant a guy n gal hav a completely platonic friendship whr thy understand echothr perfectly n count on ech othr? Battles v women face either at home or with relatives all the time...guess, it's a phase v all go through :)
nyways,a team of students from Iowa are coming to India to study both social and commercial entrepreneurship, am volunteering to help tm touchbase with Janaagraha, my active volunteerism has reduced to just a few msgs across the various means tat the net provides....well tats my few decibles of sound for nw...
keep rocking...